Do I Need A Day-Of Wedding Coordinator?

The short answer is yes. Yes, you do.

Before I was a Wedding & Event planner, I was a bride.

Being that I love planning parties, I have a knack for party-planning and I'd dreamed about this day since I was a little girl, it's obvious that I made the choice to plan my own wedding. (This could also be because I'm a Type-A personality, but who knows for sure? lol)

I thrived doing my wedding planning. It was seriously one of the most enjoyable experiences of my life seeing my dreams fall into place and knowing they were becoming a reality.

For financial reasons, we were trying to do everything on our own, so I had everything planned down to the tiniest detail. To this day, I have a five hour playlist of music that was designed to take us from seating to ceremony to dinner and dancing.

But there was one detail I struggled with. How would I see to it that everything went flawless on my big day?

In order to be my personal best, I was scheduled to get my nails done that morning and would then be in hair and make-up for a good 2-3 hours. Then I still had to get dressed before the guests started to arrive, and who would greet them? Not to mention, while I was getting pampered for my big day, who would receive the baker with our wedding cake and the caterer with dinner? How could I possibly be in all of these places at one time?

That's when it occurred to me that no amount of dreaming and planning would be enough for me to pull this off on my own. Short of cloning myself, there was nothing I could do to pull everything off without some help.

So, who was going to help?

As I said in the beginning, the answer to the question "Do I need a Day-Of Coordinator?" is a resounding yes, but whether this coordinator comes as a full-service wedding planner, a professional you've hired just for the day or a very near and dear friend that you can trust is another question.

In my case, my groom was as busy on our wedding day as I was scheduled to be and my nearest and dearest friends were already involved as my maid of honor, matron of honor, photographer and officiant, so I couldn't ask them. Honestly, I think this would be the case for most couples planning a wedding - to surround yourselves with those you are closest to.

As I reached further and further into my circle of friends, it felt less and less appropriate to ask them to handle such a heavy burden as overseeing my wedding and those I did ask obviously felt very uncomfortable being straddled with the task. I relented and ended up asking numerous people to help in small ways, instead of asking any one person to help do it all. But then, there was the question of "how much is too much?"

How much could I ask any one person to do without troubling them too much? How much could I assign to different people without risking something falling through the cracks.

For the lucky bride or groom who has a plethora of friends who are willing to oversee the entire wedding day and every vendor - I say go for it. But for the many who are in the same boat I was in, I feel that hiring a wedding planner or a day-of coordinator is most definitely the easiest, most convenient, full-proof way to go.

Take it from me - planners know best! ;-)

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