"Proposal Boxes": Tips and Tricks

You may be wondering what a "Proposal Box" is.

Once the "big" question is popped and answered with a resounding "Yes!", it's time to start inviting the important people in your life to participate in your big day.

This is where "Proposal Boxes" come into play!

Of course you could just go old school and just ask your loved ones, or you could send them a cute card.(Like this one from Zazzle.com)

But the Proposal Box takes this a step beyond by thanking your wedding party personally, and getting them excited for this special time in your life.

If you've read our blog post about wedding favors, then you know we're big fans of thoughtful, useful gifts that don't break the bank.

However, proposal boxes are different in that you are not trying to please the masses. This time around, it's all about the personal touches.

We at Weddings & Events by Heather are in love with this idea, and so we've decided to share some of our favorite Proposal Box thoughts to inspire you to participate in this lovely new tradition!

Proposal Box Kits vs. DIY

For the couple who is short on time or not very crafty, there are tons of options for purchasing Proposal Boxes online, like these from Etsy.com (pictured below). However, if you enjoy being hands-on, it isn't so difficult to put one together yourself.

All you really need are a handful of items and a box to put them in. Boxes can be purchased at your local craft store, or can be shopped for online by doing a quick google search.

Do's & Don'ts


  • Include a Note - Use this opportunity to thank the recipient for how much they mean to you, and to explain how very important it is that they share this journey with you.

  • Be Budget Savvy - While you're welcome to spend a fortune if you have one, budget conscious couples don't need to break the bank to put together proposal boxes.

  • Be Thoughtful - When making your proposal boxes, these are not necessarily a one-size-fits-all situation. Keep in mind who each box is for, and try to include personal touches that you know they'll enjoy.

  • Personalize Gifts - If you happen to own a Cricut machine or something similar, you can even personalize gifts with their names, graphics or your favorite phrase, though this is most definitely not a necessity and we personally don't encourage investing in a Cricut just for this purpose alone.

  • Be Useful - No one - not the couple doing the gifting or the person receiving the gift - wants a proposal box filled with items that will only gather dust. In our opinion, the best gifts are things that can not only be used in the time leading up to your wedding, but will prove useful long after you say "I Do".

  • Consider Your Wedding Theme - Remember, the purpose of the box is to show your gratitude and appreciation while revving your wedding party up for the wedding day. Consider flip-flops for a beach wedding, luggage tags for a destination wedding, or jewelry that can be worn on the special day.

  • Throw in a Little Something Extra - Seeing how the Maid of Honor and Best Man will be playing a significant role in your life, don't be afraid to make their boxes a tad more elaborate.


  • Put Your Names and Wedding Date on Everything - We know your excited but, while it can be tempting to plaster your details on everything, this can shorten the life of some gifts. Remember, you want them to be able to use these items for months and years to come

  • Be Too Generic - Again, the key is to tailor the box to the recipient. While some gifts have mass appeal, you wouldn't want to give a bridesmaid with unpierced ears some post earring that she can't wear, a recovering alcoholic a flask, or chocolate to a child with allergies.

Maid of Honor & Bridesmaid Boxes

With the ladies in mind, these are some of our favorite things to include in your proposal boxes and why we love them!

  • Planner - Not only is this gift affordable and useful, but you can personalize it by entering the dates you know they'll need. For example, fill in the wedding date and any pre-wedding parties that you hope they'll attend, and leave the rest blank for them to fill in dress shopping, fittings and other pre-wedding events as they are planned.

  • Jewelry - Being a bridesmaid is an expensive endeavor! There's the dress, the shoes, hair and make-up, nails...and those things all add up! So, why not supply them with earrings and a necklace they can wear for the special day? Not only does this slightly ease their financial burden, but it ensures a cohesive look amongst your bridal party. Plus, who doesn't like a little bling? You can even take this a step farther by gifting them a small jewelry box for them to keep the jewelry in a safe place till your wedding day.

  • Pampering Items - Let's face it, one of the duties of the "Bride Tribe" is to pamper the bride on her big day, so why not pamper them first? You can include things like a shower pouf, face mask, massage oil, a favorite hand lotion, or even a sugar scrub to make them look and feel their best on your wedding day! You might also think to include a gift card for a mani/pedi at the salon where you plan to go in preparation for the big day.

  • Drinking Items - This is a popular choice for Bridesmaid items. From personalized, insulated tumblers to keep them hydrated to wine glasses, glass tumblers or shot glasses to get them celebrating, these are some great choices!

  • Little Necessities - These are small items you can include, like a favorite candy (Ferrer Rocher?), hair ties, or a scented candle to help them relax.

  • Wedding Related Attire - Personalized T-Shirts are a popular gift as they are something that can be worn for tons of pre-wedding celebrations! Other brides include a night shirt, pajamas or satin robes that can be worn for "Getting Ready" photos. Other wearable items might include flip-flops or hats, which are especially cute if you're planning a beach or tropical bachelorette party! If your planning for your bridesmaids to wear sashes or belts for the ceremony, or maybe a cute comb in their hair, then these are great gifts to give as well.

  • Coupons & Offers - Many times, dress shops will give your wedding party discount codes if they shop there as well. This is a great opportunity to show them that you have their best interest at heart and are thinking about their wallets, as much as their hearts.

Best Man & Groomsmen Proposal Boxes

We can't lie, we appealed to social media for many of the ideas below! We hope you find at least a couple of items that inspire you.

  • Magnet- If you're the crafty kind, why not make a refrigerator magnet with your favorite picture of the groomsman and include the wedding date, time and location so that he can keep the information handy until your big day!

  • Wedding Day Essentials - Once again, it can be costly being a groomsman! If you're planning a formal wedding, a tie with a tie-tack or a cufflinks are a perfect item for this occasion.

  • Drinking Items - Personalized hip flasks, shot glasses, beer koozies, or mini-bottles of their favorite liquor are especially popular when it comes to groomsmen gifts.

  • Manly Man Items - If your guys are the rugged kind, you might include a decent pocket knife, swiss-army knife, engraved lighter or a Cuban cigar.

  • Games - Perhaps your guys are more low-key than rugged. Consider maybe including a small checkers or chess set with your proposal box, to keep the guys entertained.

  • Pampering Items - So, maybe frou-frou shower items aren't the best for most guys, but you can still pamper them! You might include a coffee mug with a Starbucks gift card inside, or perhaps a gift card towards a massage! You can also pamper the fellows with chocolates, candies, breath mints or other sweet treats.

  • Wedding Related Attire - In keeping with the theme of being as helpful to your wedding party as possible, you could always spring for boxers, socks, ties, belts or suspenders to help your groomsmen gather the perfect wedding day ensemble.

  • Coupons & Offers - Yes, even Tuxedo shops sometimes offer your wedding party discounts! If you receive one of these from your chosen shop, include them in the proposal box - it may ease your friends' concerns about the amount of money they'll need to spend in order to participate.

Flower Girl Proposal Box

Kids mostly want to feel special and included with the adults as much as possible, but they are so much easier to shop for! Here are just some of our favorite ideas for your wedding's "Petal Patrol".

  • Flower Girl Book - A quick google search will find numerous options for this gift, from generic flower girl books to personalized books that feature the little girl's name. This is especially wonderful for little girls who may not have been in a wedding before, as it can help them to understand what all the fuss is about and get them excited about being included!

  • Jewelry - Kids love to feel all grown up. So, if you're giving jewelry items to the ladies in your wedding party, make sure to include a set for the littlest lady of all!

  • Pampering Items - Little girls love to be pampered just as much as their grown-up counterparts! To make them feel especially pretty, you could include a shower pouf, bubble bath, a nude lip gloss, hair ties, clips or headbands, and child-safe nail polish.

  • Drinking Items - So what if they're under 21? You could still include an insulated tumbler or an acrylic cup with a lid and straw in their proposal box.

  • Candy - Yes we're going to include this in every section - who doesn't love a little sweetness in their life? Hershey's Kisses and Hugs are the perfect bite-size treat to let your flower girl know that you care.

  • Wedding Related Attire - Again, it's nice to include the children in as many ways possible, so why not make them a Flower Girl shirt so they can feel special and show off their new important title?

  • Toys - If you're like me, then you probably loved playing dress-up as a kid. There are tons of Bride Dress-Up set available online that your flower girl is sure to love. Or, for the older girls, what about a Bride Barbie?

Ring Bearer Proposal Box

Last but definitely not least, let's talk about the little man in the group. Again, you want to make the boys feel as special and involved as possible. Here are some of our favorite ideas.

  • Ring Bearer Book - There are a plethora of books available to help kids learn about weddings and their exciting new role! From generic Ring Bearer Books to Personalized Books, you'll have plenty to choose from.

  • Drinking Items - Cups with lids and insulated tumblers are the thing! Personalize with their name and title so they'll get excited about your big day every time they drink some water or juice.

  • Candy - You knew this one was coming, but what little boy doesn't like candy? Don't forget to give your "Ring Security" a little pick-me-up to celebrate!

  • Wedding Related Attire - From personalized t-shirts to socks or "Ring Security" jackets, there are so many possibilities for dressing little man up in his wedding finery!

  • Toys - If you're a fan of the "Ring Security" idea, then we're in love with this inexpensive little kit! Let the little guy celebrate the mission he's accepted with maximum fun! A keepsake teddy bear is another cute addition.

So, there you have it! The possibilities for your proposal boxes are limitless and depend only on your imagination and budget. Don't overthink it and, most of all, have fun with it!

Happy Asking!

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